Why Some People Won’t Take Good Advice – The Man Up Show, Ep. 86

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Once a nerdy, skinny professor of Asian philosophy who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach. Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, including AXN, Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore. Formerly a professor at the National University of Singapore, Dr. Tian is actively researching, speaking, and publishing in the areas of philosophy and psychology.

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In episode 86 of man up, I answer the question of: Why some people won’t take good advice?

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Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up!

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Hi I’m David Tian, Ph.D. and this is episode 86 of man up. I apologize the last episode went really long so I’m going to try and keep this under five minutes. The problem was I actually jotted down like 5-point, 4-point bullet points before I started answering that question. This time I will not do that. That was the first time I ever did that and it ended up being one of the longest videos. So I think one of the keys to brevity is not to jot down any notes or not think about it or so. I’m pulling out a question here from Michael. Alright Michael, I read the question before pressing record but that’s it. Hopefully to ensure that it stays under five minutes. Okay, this question is, basically is that he’s been trying to give advice to his guy friends mostly about what not to do when they seem desperate. How not to seem desperate. Not texting a girl too often is one of the examples he gave. But they’re not taking his advice and they’re not getting with the program, they’re not watching my videos as much as he is, they’re just not being good supportive friends. They’re not taking his advice and he’s wondering what to do. Based on the advice that he was mentioning in his message, I think he’s basically pointing out content that they can go to with pretty good advice most of it from me. So I can’t fault the advice, so based on that I look at their unwillingness to go to the advice.

Here’s one of the things I noticed and I’ve learned from my over 10 years of coaching a man and giving dating advice, life advice, is that even when… ok so out of all of the people who need the advice, a small percentage of them will realize that they needed it. Okay so, most people who are experiencing difficulty in life and can benefit from knowledge are so mired in the muck of their problems that they don’t even realize that there’s a solution. And sometimes, they don’t even realize that they don’t even realize that there is a problem because everyone else that they know suffers from this problem that they don’t consider a problem. So they just continue to muck around in their life.

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